Many women are wondering: “How can my husband love me and have an affair?” The fact is, many men who have affairs are not very open about it. While this can be frustrating for the wives, the husbands often have a different motivation for the affair. Sexual adventurism may be the main motivation, while other men may feel they need a different kind of sexual stimulation. Either way, you should always be aware of the signs and wait for the right time to confront him.
While your husband may be trying to save your marriage, he is most likely hurt by the affair. You may not realize it, but your affair is a way to make him feel better about himself. He may have forgotten how great he found the other woman, or how much you made him feel about himself. Acting the way you did when your relationship was new may help him forget that you are cheating.
A small change in attitude can make a big difference in your marriage. You must accept that husbands have different personalities and that you must accommodate their preferences. Readjust your attitude to your husband’s reasonable needs and he will return the favor. If you haven’t been able to change your attitude toward your husband, he’ll see you as an equal, not a rival. If you want to make your marriage work, you must be willing to put in the effort to change yourself.
It takes time for your partner to rebuild trust and regain your love, so it’s important to be patient with him. Be open and honest, but don’t make the conversation about the affair prematurely. You must be prepared for ongoing conversations about betrayal and sacrifice. If your relationship has suffered, it may help to seek out a therapist or friends to help you deal with your betrayal.
While it can be difficult to confront your partner about the affair, it is necessary to do so to understand his feelings and determine what happened. It is important to speak with your partner in private, and if you cannot manage to do this, consider seeking Relationship Counselling. This professional can provide a safe, confidential environment to explore these issues. Remember to remain calm and don’t cut in on each other’s words or run for the door.